A sponsor is someone who helps you acclimate to a 12-step fellowship program. They help to educate the newcomer on the 12 steps and take them through the program as they see fit. You can get a sponsor at a 12 step fellowship meeting. A normal sponsor should be someone who has considerably more time in sobriety than you do. Generally, those who are new to the 12 step program will use their sponsor as an extra means of support. Most sponsors allow their sponsee the freedom to call them at any time, day or night. Sponsors are there to give advice and guidance through the ups and downs of early recovery. Finding a sponsor is very simple—all you have to do is ask.
Typically at every 12 step meeting, there’s time set aside towards the end of the meeting for sponsorship. All of those attending the meeting who are available to sponsor a newcomer will either raise their hand or stand up. Newcomers tend to be a bit shy at first but there’s really nothing to be worried about. Those who announce their willingness to sponsor are actively looking for a sponsee and want to help. It allows them to give back what the’ve previously received, and will ultimately help them strengthen their own recovery. It’s very common to ask an individual to be your sponsor if you see something in them that you can relate to. Another common theme when deciding who you want to be your sponsor to be is to “want what they have.” This means that they portray certain qualities that you wish to pass on to a newcomer someday. Sponsorship is an important part of getting involved in early recovery. Not only will it help you to meet more people in the program but it will provide the necessary support and guidance that’s required for early recovery.
Choosing Your Sponsor
When you’re ready to choose your sponsor, ask yourself the following things first:
- Am I comfortable being open and honest with this person? Remember that you’ll be sharing some of your toughest moments with them.
- Is the person I want to sponsor me someone who I look up to? Don’t necessarily choose the person who seems like the most fun in meetings – choose the person who models what you want to base your new life off of.
- Have you thought your decision through and considered all options? Though you can change sponsors if you believe that you’ve made a mistake, it helps to choose someone that you’ll click with the first time. Talk to multiple people, and think through your decision carefully.
Before you can choose a person to help you maintain your sobriety, you need to take the necessary steps to get clean and sober in rehab. The Hills Treatment Center located in The Hollywood Hills of California can help. Call 866-323-4665 today for more information.