Many people who suffer from addiction are also victims of unhealthy relationships with loved ones. Codependency is a major issue for everyone involved with addiction, and it can perpetuate the problem. When one or more individuals are codependent in a relationship, it’s very difficult for a person to get sober. It’s important to know how to recognize codependency if you’re struggling with an addiction.
What is Codependency?
Being codependent is a dysfunctional behavioral trait in which a person relies on someone to meet different emotional needs. The person who has the addiction, their loved one or both people can be codependent. No matter who is codependent in the relationship, it’s very unhealthy and can deter a person from getting sober. Below are some of the symptoms of someone who is codependent in a relationship:
- Low self-esteem
- Poor boundaries
- People pleasing
- The need to take care of others
- Control issues
- Painful emotions
Someone who is codependent needs another person in order to boost his or her own self-esteem. The way a person fulfills this need can take many forms. The codependent person is often in denial, much like someone who suffers from addiction. He or she will often make excuses for his or her actions. The problem is that when it comes to addiction, a codependent relationship leads to enabling.
Spousal Codependent Issues
There are many cases in which a person doesn’t get sober because his or her spouse is codependent and wants to keep control. Codependents and people with addictions are often together because the person with the addiction needs to be taken care of, while the codependent individual feels loved and wanted when they’re able to take care of someone. This can lead to the codependent person telling the one with the addiction that he or she is fine and doesn’t need treatment.
Codependent Behavior in Recovery
Being a codependent person when trying to get sober can also be very dangerous because it leads to very toxic relationships. When you get sober, your recovery must be your top priority, and you need to focus on yourself. If you’re struggling with codependency as well, you’re going to find someone who you want to fix. When you’re codependent, you take on other peoples’ problems, and this is overwhelming in early recovery.
Through addiction treatment at The Hills Center in Los Angeles, California, you’ll learn more about behaviors of codependency. In treatment, you’ll begin to analyze different relationships to see which ones may be unhealthy and hindering your recovery. Part of treatment is also taking an honest self-appraisal to see if you struggle with these behaviors as well. Your codependent behavior may come from being a child of someone who has an addiction. It’s important to remember that you can recover from codependency as well.
Here at The Hills Center, we specialize in helping individuals and their family begin the healing process. Call us today at 866-323-4665 for more information.