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Codependency Vs. Enabling

When we see a friend or loved one harming themselves through excessive and destructive substance abuse, we want to do anything we can to help that person recover. But, at what point does our help end up hurting? For those in codependent relationships, especially with addicts and alcoholics, the line between healthy support and harmful enabling can be a fine one.

Enabling refers to two different behaviors. In a positive way, enabling refers to a type of empowerment, or an interaction between people that promotes development and growth. But in a negative way, enabling is a dysfunctional approach to helping solve a problem, which ultimately exacerbates it. Enabling is often observed in relationships between addicts/alcoholics and codependents: one partner mistakenly believes that they are helping the other by making excuses for the other’s conduct and by cleaning up the wreckage of their destructive behavior. In reality, this type of behavior is not helpful-it is harmful.

Enabling hurts all people involved; it prevents psychological growth in the person being enabled, and it can contribute to anger, sadness, and resentment in the person doing the enabling. In a general sense, enablers tend to have weak boundaries, low self-esteem, and difficulty with communication and assertiveness. Therefore, rehabilitation and behavior modification is crucial to both the addict and the codependent in order for successful recovery to take place.

Rescuing someone or solving someone’s problem for them seems like a caring, supportive thing to do, but it in fact hinders growth and development. Because being codependent on someone else can easily lead to enabling-and through the process of enabling the codependent often ends up feeling overly responsible for someone, then shamed for their behavior, and then, ultimately, victimized-a solution to codependency and enabling may be the act of disentangling, or detachment. By establishing boundaries and limits to what a person can and will do for another, detaching from someone’s destructive behavior allows both the addict and the codependent to become accountable for their actions and to psychologically grow.



Our mission at The Hills Treatment Center is to offer a unique combination of educational and therapeutic drug and alcohol rehabilitation. In that spirit we present answers to some frequently asked questions. However, don’t stop here. Our knowledgeable and compassionate admissions specialists are available to speak with you personally 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

How do I know if someone is addicted to drugs or alcohol?
Diseases of drug and alcohol addiction are complex and impactful. We encourage you to speak with your physician, or refer to the symptoms checklists offered by respected agencies in the field of addiction research and treatment like The National Institute on Drug Abuse, or NIDA .
What drug and alcohol treatment choices do you offer?
At The Hills, we offer a wide variety of treatment choices ranging from residential drug and alcohol treatment to intensive outpatient treatment, each applying the latest and best addiction treatment therapies. Plus, at every level there are counseling and support groups from which to select to maximize the process of recovery.
Is detoxification a painful experience?
Not if you’re detoxing from drug or alcohol addiction in a residential setting at The Hills, where you’re given round the clock care and attention every step of the way, safe and secure in a private room with counselors, message therapists, and world class chefs to aide and advise you in comfort.
What if your detox program doesn’t work for my needs?
That’s not possible at The Hills Treatment Center because all of our treatment plans are personalized to specifically support the rehabilitation and recovery of each individual client.
Can I receive treatment for more than one addiction?
Yes. The Hills recognizes that many people suffer from multiple addictions compounded by mental and emotional health issues. Our Dual Diagnosis program addresses all of these compounding issues.
Won’t drug and alcohol treatment put me behind at school?
We understand how important it is to achieve your academic goals, but that will not be possible without addresses the challenges of addiction. Through our Young Adults program we will develop a rehabilitation schedule that allows you to continue your education.
What happens to me after detoxification is complete?
You are not left alone after drug or alcohol detox. We offer a myriad of counseling and educational programs to support your rehabilitation and recovery including Relapse Prevention, Sober Living and Sober Companions, Family Outreach, and New Lease on Life.
Who comprises your staff?
The staff here at The Hills is led by eminent addiction expert, Dr. Howard C. Samuels; columnist, published author, television talk-show guest on the leading edge of drug and alcohol treatment modalities. Our team of experienced professionals and paraprofessionals often know first – hand what drug and alcohol treatment and recovery are all about. Our team is here to assist and support you at all times.


A guide to locating appropriate treatment, entering a rehab and more. Includes questions and answers, and a California Drug Rehab Guide.

• Family Involvement • Specific Drugs • Treatment Facilities • Financial Issues • Before Entering Rehab • After Drug Rehab • California Drug Rehab • Legal Issues

About Dr. Howard Samuels

Howard C. Samuels, PsyD is a leading drug and alcohol addiction expert. He is a licensed therapist with a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology with years of experience running two successful treatment centers, and is the founder of The Hills Treatment Center.

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